A DIRECT MESSAGE FROM FRAN

I help men break the cycle of compulsive sexual behavior without shame, sobriety chips, or the word "addict."

Private, direct, 1:1 work for men who've tried willpower, tried hiding it, tried quitting on their own — and are ready for something that actually works.

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20 minutes. No intake forms.
Fran Frye
(MEN)TAL HEALTH ADVOCATE · EST. PRACTICE
Section 02 · The Reframe

You've probably called it porn addiction or sex addiction. Most men do.

But the compulsive behavior patterns you're experiencing aren't technically addictions — and that matters, because the recovery-meeting, "one day at a time," white-knuckle approach isn't built for what's actually happening in your body.

What's actually happening: your nervous system learned to use sex or porn to regulate stress, numb shame, or fill something that's been missing for a long time. That's a pattern.

And patterns
can be changed.
Section 03 · How I Work

1 : 1
SESSIONS

No group shares · No workbooks

Most of my work is private, one-on-one, and tailored entirely to your situation.

No group shares. No workbooks that assume your story is the same as every other man's. Just direct work with me, starting with understanding what your behavior is actually doing for you — and building something better.

SEE HOW 1:1 SESSIONS WORK →
Section 04 · The Three Paths

Where you start
depends on where you are.

01

OVERCOMING

You're still in the cycle.

The work of interrupting the compulsive pattern itself. Nervous system regulation, loosening shame's grip, and building a life where the behavior isn't doing a job nothing else can do.

Most men start here.
02

TRANSITIONS

The behavior stopped. The fallout didn't.

Divorce. A marriage on the edge. Kids who know something's wrong. An identity built around hiding something. This is where men rebuild after the compulsive behavior has been addressed — or after it's been discovered.

Some start here if a marriage is in crisis.
03

UNLOCKED

You're ready for real intimacy again.

The harder question that often comes last: what does healthy sexuality actually look like for you? This is where men learn to be present in their bodies and connected to a partner — without performance, without the old patterns pulling back in.

The work after the work.
There's no fixed timeline moving through these stages. Some stay in Overcoming. Some start in Transitions because a marriage is already in crisis. We figure out where you actually are in the first call.
FRAN · AT WORK
Focused practice
Section 05 · Why Me

A men's advocate and a practice focused on one thing.

The credentials are on the About page. The one that matters here: compulsive sexual behavior is my area of focused practice. That focus itself is a credential.

  • SEXUAL HEALTH ALLIANCE CERTIFIED
  • SOMATICA INSTITUTE TRAINED
  • AMERICAN BOARD OF SEXOLOGY CERTIFIED
  • DEATH DOULA
  • ADVOCATE & VOLUNTEER
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What Men Are Saying...

The techniques that Fran used with me were not like any that I had been exposed to by any previous therapists that I had worked with. Learning to look at, think about, and explore my intrusive thoughts in a way that was giving me back the control that I thought I had has been an incredibly powerful tool.

— F
Fran is an amazing listener. Not only does she hear you, she feels what you feel and is incredibly empathetic. She wants the best for you. We all need an advocate, and that's who Fran is. When it's time to come up with a plan to get you back on track, she introduces ideas and concepts that you can relate to, that begin the healing process.

— G
I've often found myself being closed off with sharing trauma, inner feelings, and just plain old being open. What Fran has offered me is a comforting place to finally be able to open up about things I never have before. Fran has given me a voice, identity, and allowed me to see things I never thought were possible.

— V

Certifications & Affiliations

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Section 06 · Final Step

Book a confidential
20-minute call.

No intake forms. No commitment. Just a conversation about what's going on and whether we're a fit.

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Or email: fran@franfrye.com

WHICH BEST DESCRIBES YOU?

TRANSITIONS

READY FOR A LIFE CHANGE

You’re experiencing a life transition and want someone to help you find your blind spots, encourage you to make bolder decisions and finally start leading the life you’ve always wanted.
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UNLOCKED

IMPROVED SEX LIFE SEEKER

You know your relationships could be more fulfilling, you’re generally dissatisfied with your sex life or you’re experiencing sexual difficulties you’re ready to take charge of.
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OVERCOMING

TIRED OF COPING USING PORN & SEX

You’ve noticed sex and porn are being used as coping strategies rather than erotic entertainment and you are ready to develop new strategies to thrive.
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WHAT MEN ARE SAYING...

The techniques that Fran used with me were not like any that I had been exposed to by any previous therapists... Fran is an amazing listener. Not only does she hear you, she feels what you feel and is incredibly empathetic... Fran has given me a voice, identify, and allowed me to see things I never thought were possible...