A yoni massage is a form of tantric massage that focuses on the vulva and vagina. It is a practice that aims to provide relaxation, pleasure, and healing. While a trained professional can help you cultivate a beautiful yoni massage, there is a practice you can cultivate in the privacy of your own home. If you’re looking for general information about yoni massage, here are some key points to consider:
- Trust and Communication: Before engaging in any kind of intimate or tantric practice, it is crucial to establish trust and open communication with your partner. This helps create a safe and comfortable environment for both parties involved.
- Setting the Environment: The massage should take place in a warm, quiet, and comfortable space. Soft lighting, relaxing music, and pleasant scents can enhance the overall experience.
- Consent and Boundaries: Consent and boundaries are of utmost importance. You should discuss and establish boundaries and expectations before the massage begins. This ensures that both you and your partner are on the same page and have a clear understanding of what will take place during the session.
- Breathing and Relaxation: Deep breathing exercises and relaxation techniques can help you relax and connect with your body. I’d encourage you to listen to a ‘medibation’ to help relax your yoni and body.Constrict the back of your throat, inhale, and hear a whispering sound. Then exhale and release that sound again. Continue to take deep, passionate and audible breaths.
- External Stimulation: The massage may begin with gentle external strokes and caresses on the pelvic area, thighs, and abdomen. This allows you to gradually relax and become more comfortable with the touch. You can then move into the vulva region, which is the external part of the vagina. Be sure to grab some massage oil that’s both lube and massage oil. Common cliteral stimulations include:
Circling
Circle the external tip of the clitoris with the tip of your finger to stimulate arousal. Alternate the pressure from light to heavy.
Push and Pull
Push down on the clitoris and make small push-and-pull strokes. I’d also encourage you to slide your finger gently down the shaft of the clitoris.
Tugging
Pull the clit gently away from the body by grasping at the sides and tugging back and forth gently.
Tapping
Using one finger (my preference), tap the clitoris in varying rhythms – go from fast to slow. See how the body responds.
- Internal Stimulation: If you have given explicit consent and feel ready, your partner may proceed to internal stimulation. This involves gentle, non-intrusive techniques focused on the vaginal area. The purpose is to provide pleasure, increase awareness, and release any tension or energetic blockages. I’d also recommend you try edging where you bring your genitals to almost an orgasm, then you come off of it and return to baseline… then you repeat. This allows for even deeper, more intense orgasms.
- Emotional Release: Yoni massage can sometimes lead to emotional releases, such as crying, laughing, or feeling deeply connected. It’s essential to allow these emotions to arise without judgment, as they are part of the healing process.
Remember, yoni massage is an intimate practice, and it’s important to approach it with respect, trust, and clear communication.
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